Masturbation is one of the easiest ways to please yourself in a sexual manner. The fact that you are pleasuring yourself and responding immediately to what feels good and what doesn’t amplifies just how much pleasure you receive. Not to mention you also control the pace and can make a masturbation session quick or drag it out for hours of orgasmic fun. Now while some of you may be thinking to yourself that everyone knows how to masturbate, the truth is that so many women have grown up not knowing the best ways to masturbate. So even though they may be getting off, they may be missing all sorts of ways avenues of undiscovered pleasure. In fact, read up on this guide and YOU may even realize that you were missing some great techniques to help you play with yourself.
Do Not Rush Through Masturbation
This is a personal time that you should not rush through. While squeezing in five minutes to masturbate may feel like you are getting a win for the day, the masturbation session may not be as fulfilling if you are thinking about how much longer you have to finish up. Or worse off, you’re forced to stop masturbating before you even orgasm. As much as possible, make sure that you have ample time to masturbate so that you don’t have to worry about finishing faster, and can instead focus on your own pleasure in an intimate environment.
On a similar note, make sure that you won’t physically be interrupted by anything while you masturbate, as that WILL totally kill the mood. Try to masturbate when no one else is home, or when everyone else is asleep. And if masturbating in the middle of the day, at least put your phone on silent so there is no chance of any interruption there. In fact, while we are at it, try turning on some sensual music to really help you get into the mood.
Masturbation isn’t all about the Vagina
Yes, the vagina has all sorts of gadgets and pleasure points that you can rely on to feel amazing. However, the vagina is just a small portion of your body, and the reality is that so many other regions of your body can produce mind-numbing pleasure. Massaging your breasts is a great sensation, as is playing with your nipples. Playing with your butthole is also a great place to focus on (it’s not weird, trust us). Even just the simple act of sucking on your fingers to lube it up is an act that can arouse you immensely. Or simply dragging your fingertips across your chest, legs, stomach, wherever works for you. As long as you don’t go into the mindset that everything has to be about the vagina, you can discover yourself and what turns you on outside of your genital region.
In fact that aspect of self-discovery is precisely what makes masturbation so great – you are able to discover all the ways you can get turned on and sexually aroused without someone else getting in the way.
Once you’ve tried arousing yourself in all of these different ways, the next logical step is to arouse those areas in conjunction with vaginal play! Pleasuring two parts of your body at once will lead to twice the pleasure. Just note that it may take some coordination at first to really get good stimulation going with both hands, especially with your non-dominant hand. But it is worth it, we promise!
Don’t be afraid to use Lube
Often times the urge to masturbate does not register right away as sexual arousal, especially if you typically like to masturbate on a regular basis (i.e. on a schedule). If that is you, you may not be naturally lubricated (at least when you start masturbating). These situations are the perfect time to manually add lube to your genital area. Even if you’ll probably end up getting wet naturally within a few minutes, it’s better to lube yourself up first so that those first few minutes are actually as pleasing as it can be.
You can Have Different “Positions” While Masturbating
Lying on your back on your bed is the most common way to masturbate, but it isn’t necessarily the best. At least not if you do it all the time. Varying how your body is positioned while you masturbate can change how much pleasure you receive. For example, if you lift your legs up and bring your knees as close to your shoulders as you can, you can really start feeling new parts of your vagina, not to mention be able to penetrate much deeper and get stronger sensations that way.
Another way to masturbate is to get into a position that simulates a real sex position (just without the guy or girl). This helps add extra arousal by triggering your brain to think about actual sex in those positions while you are masturbating. For example, getting on your hands and knees and then pulling one hand back to masturbate while you are in doggy-style position is a good way to masturbate. Or you can just get on your knees and spread them apart to simulate a cow-girl position, while using both hands to stimulate whatever you want to. Getting into quintessential sex positions while you are masturbating is a simple trick to add extra arousal to your self-pleasure sessions.
Don’t Be Afraid to Use Visual or Audio Aids
Most girls learn to masturbate by thinking of sexy thoughts, sexy situations or sexy experiences from the past. At least that’s how it is normally done at first. The reality is that a lot of women use all sorts of other “aids” to really help them get into the mood. This does not just mean porn however. It can be anything from an erotic novel (think “Fifty Shades of Grey”), some erotic pictures, or even music that has an uncanny ability to turn them on. And keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with anything that you do in private, no matter what anyone tells you. If it helps you get off, then use it!
Start Masturbating (The Right Way) Today!
Even though masturbating is often considered to be fairly intuitive, hopefully this guide will have showed you that masturbation has all sorts of nuances that can really increase your overall sexual arousal, which is the main point of masturbating in the first place. If you’ve already been using all of these tips, then good for you! But if not, take the time to implement them the next time you masturbate and see how much better you feel!
