While sex is a fun way to satisfy your sexual urges with someone else, it is so important to practice safe sex tips at all times. This not only ensures that the you and your partner have a fun and enjoyable time in the moment, but also ensures that there are no long-term negative effects of your late-night encounter such as pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. This guide will give you our top tips that you should always follow to have safe sex (not to mention enjoyable sex).
Avoid being Drunk (Or High)
Although drinking and getting high are both external methods of getting us to feel good and get into the mood, they can inadvertently lead to unwanted sex. The truth of the matter is that sex is not consensual if either partner is not sober. However, more often than not, your partner may not adhere to that law if they care more about getting laid. In order to avoid that possibility altogether, do your best to avoid drinking or getting high when you are out with someone, especially if you feel like there is a good chance that you guys will end up having sex that night. Or only drink to the point where you will be sober a few hours later in the night when sex becomes a possibility. That way you can make a sober decision as to whether you want to continue engaging in sex or not.
Obviously, if you are with your significant other and can trust them fully, then you have much more leniency to drink to your hearts content.
Bring your own condom
If you are a women, don’t expect the guy to have a condom on him. In fact some guys are audacious enough not to bring a condom on purpose, in order to force a girls hand and have sex without one (which guys claim to be more pleasurable than sex with a condom on). Bringing your own condom forces him to either wear one, or not to have sex (just be sure to check the expiration date before use).
In fact, this rule applies to any and all sex-related items that you may find necessary for having not just safe sex, but fun sex as well. This can include things like dams, lube or even sex toys if that is a part of how you engage in sexual intercourse.
Create Limits and Boundaries Beforehand
Even if you need to write them down, listing out what you are comfortable doing is a great way to make sure that sex doesn’t go too far and that the sex remains enjoyable throughout. Things like no anal sex, or take it slow are all valid limits that you can present to your partner before sex. If they aren’t willing to agree to your unconditional terms, then it is in your best interest to just walk away and not have sex with him. He should be fully willing to adhere to what you are comfortable with, and if he isn’t then he is not worth it.
Alternatively, as awkward as it may seem, you can even lay out your boundaries explicitly for your partner before it even gets close to having sex. Even if it means having this conversation while still at the bar or whenever your night began, it is much better to ensure that you let your voice be heard, especially when waiting until the last minute right before intercourse actually begins can lead to you being more timid and pressured to throw your limits out the window.
Make sure your friend knows where you are when about to have sex
This tip is especially important when meeting up with strangers such as those you would meet on dating apps. Even if you’ve met up with them a couple of times in the past, if you are about to go all the way with him or her, make sure to always tell a close friend what you are about to do and where you are headed to do it. In order to feel extra safe, send your friend pictures of your partner so that they can identify him or her to the police if something goes wrong.
Learn to talk through concerns with friends
Being able to talk about sex candidly with your sexual partner is not always easy. But a great way to learn to be able to do so more comfortably is to try talking about it with friends. It might be a bit awkward at first, but talking about safe sex with them will help you to assert your concerns with your sexual partner. Especially when you and your partner are in the moment and there is a lot of pressure that can keep you from staying silent, it is important to have the resolve to bring up any and all sexual health concerns to them before proceeding any further.
Choose Partners who Practice Safe Sex
Last but not least, do your best to find partners who have the same values of safe sex that you do. Not only will they help to ensure that sex for the both of you is safe, but they can also help to make you feel significantly more comfortable having sex. By knowing that your partner has your best interests at heart at all times, you are able to focus more on the pleasure and excitement of the moment rather than the potential safety risks involved.
Safe Sex is Fun Sex
The only way to truly be fully immersed in the sexual experience from a place of pleasure is to ensure that all safety precautions are made so that you do not have to worry about anything other than the joy of sex itself. Always make sure that you are in the right mental state before performing sex, and be sure to communicate what you are and aren’t comfortable doing with your partner. Also make sure to bring your own condoms and other accessories without relying on the guy on bringing them, and to feel extra safe, let your friend know where you are headed to have sex, and with whom. Lastly, it is always important to learn to embrace the safety side of sexual intercourse and to become comfortable talking about it, not just with your close friends but with your partners as well. And if you can find a partner who also practices safe sex, that is a huge plus. Follow all of these tips and get ready to see how your sex becomes way more pleasurable now that you have the full peace of mind that you are having as safe of sex as possible.
